Wedding Guest Etiquette

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This year we have been invited to a record number of weddings and every single time there would be a person (or two) who totally disregards simple rules of etiquette. Especially, among the Russian population since there are so many weddings every year, people don't treat them special anymore and instead show up late and dressed in all kinds of outfits. Here are simple rules one should adhere to when attending a wedding.

The Hidden Dress Code

Everyone (every single woman out there) should know that it's a big 'no-no' to wear white to a wedding. It doesn't matter if the dress is short, has lace detail, accented  with a different color belt or what not. White is reserved only for the bride and even cream/ivory color should be avoided. Light colored dresses are a favorite for summer but unless it has some kind of print on it you should avoid white at all costs. I have seen too many young ladies and women wear white (yes, white dresses) to a wedding and that's simply wrong. 

Paper Matters 

Upon arrival of the invitation, it's considered good manners to RSVP as soon as possible. The bride and groom are paying a pretty penny for the wedding, so knowing that they don't have to pay for an extra plate or drink is essential. It's very inconsiderate to not let the bride and groom know that you are not coming, especially if you are family and they plan on having you at the wedding. Whatever may be your reason, just let them know ahead of time. They will appreciate it more than you know. 

About Plus-One

If there isn't a suggestion on the invitation, do not bring a friend or significant other (unless you are married of course). It's considered bad manners to just bring along a friend or send an RSVP with (+1) on it. The family is paying a lot of money for the wedding and feeding another mouth is not something they should worry about that day.

Gift Giving

No matter how impeccable your taste may be, get the couple exactly what they asked for. Wedding registries are very common and almost every couple registers for at least some gifts. Although giving a check is nice too, selecting something from gift registry shows that you put thought and took time with the gift. There are no consensus whether or not you should give a gift when you do not attend the wedding. The couple will appreciate even small gesture if you take the time and get a small gift, or just send a card. If it's close family and you can't attend the wedding, you should always give a gift (aunts & uncles, grandmas & grandpas, etc.)

Keep Your Behavior In Check 

No matter what happens, do not outshine the bride and groom. It's not appropriate to steal the attention with a birthday celebration toast or to pop a question at somebody else's wedding. Also, refrain from mentioning passed crushes, telling inappropriate jokes and getting too much to drink. The only thing bride and groom should remember about their wedding is how wonderful it was, not how so and so did this and that.