Keeping the Sparkle {Marriage}

To be honest, last few weeks have been really (really) exhausting, physically and emotionally. We both got sick in the middle of a home remodel. The quick remodel turned out to be a two-month-long project which is still not completely done. We were both short and grumpy most of the time, exhausted from the amount of work that needs to be done and regular household duties. My pregnancy hormones and constant backache didn't help the situation. Add to that a few disagreements and you have yourself completely miserable people. 

And so we were...

You know, when you are getting married and tell yourself that you will never behave like that or this, or ever be like your parents? Well, all that runs out at about year five. When you become comfortable and lazy with the way you treat each other and mostly don't even have real time alone. Stress of life, work and personal struggles puts a huge strain on marriage and kids add to it. We love our boy and wouldn't trade him for the world but it felt like WE became non important to each other.

This weekend was a gentle reminder of how not true that is.

It's those little things we take for granted that make the relationship great. The things I don't notice because I'm too busy, too self involved or distracted. 

When he washes the dishes without asking. 

Gives me a random kiss at the dinner table, in front of our family. 

Wants to take a picture of just us. I mean, that hasn't happened since like forever. 

Gives me a smile across the crowded room in church.

Puts a gentle kiss on my forehead before heading out of the door while I'm sleeping. I wake up but keep my eyes closed just to  savoir that sweet and tender moment.

Puts Jonathan to sleep every night.

Buys band aids on the way home from work because we were all out. 

Complements me on my new dress. 

Warms up the car before we leave the house. 

It's those good deeds that keep sparkle in a relationship but when go unnoticed and unappreciated, they die out.

So do the small thing.
Love will sizzle and the sparks will fly every which way, when the love of your life feels cherished, cared for, and appreciated.